The Paradox of Perfection

How Embracing Our Imperfection Perfects Us

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Fueled by a culture of competitive individualism and catalyzed by social media presentations of a seemingly flawless self, perfectionism has become a significant societal epidemic, contributing to higher levels of anxiety, depression, and social isolation than ever before.  Christian perfectionists, whose God commands his followers to be perfect, also often experience feelings of guilt, unworthiness, and despair.  This book provides a much-needed antidote to this epidemic in the form of a properly Christian language of perfection that can be learned and practiced in our individual relationship with Christ, our marriages, our parenting, and our churches. 

About the Authors

Jeffrey Reber, Ph.D., LPC


Jeffrey Reber is chair of the department of psychology at the University of West Georgia, a therapist, and the principle founder of Relational Counseling and Consulting Services.  He is a leader in the field of relational psychology, which treats relationships as fundamental to our being, our knowing, and our morality. Dr. Reber's books specialize in treating growing societal issues and concerns, like narcissism and perfectionism, from a relational perspective that interfaces faith and psychology.

Steven Moody, LCSW


Steven Moody is a psychotherapist in   private practice in Irvine and San Clemente, CA where he specializes in relational therapy.   Steven also co-founded Relational Counseling & Consulting Services, a company that consults with Corporations, Small Businesses, & Bands to help them improve their interpersonal relationships and in turn improve their business.  He has guest lectured at Universities and has spoken at conferences all over the U.S. addressing the topics of relationships, entitlement, perfectionism, and love.   

Book Reviews

"The Paradox of Perfection is the book that every perfectionist must read now! Read it and find rest for your tired soul!"

 -Rachel Hamm, Best Selling Author of Life Beginning

“This book is a vital antidote to the poison that infiltrates many religious people—perfectionism.  I hadn’t even realized I’d ingested this poison until I read this wonderful book!  It draws you in immediately with its charming yet profound insights.  Reber and Moody have clearly penned a gem.”

- Brent Slife, Clinical Psychologist and Professor Emeritus

"Despite the authors' best intentions, this book is not flawless.  It is, however, perfect.  And if that doesn't convince you to do more than skim it in the local bookstore, buy and read this book and you too can become perfect."

- Robert Reynolds, Author of Unstuck: How the Savior Frees Us From Our Favorite Sins

"The Paradox of Perfection, by Reber and Moody is an important book. As a pastor of a local church, I have seen firsthand what it does to people’s souls when they try to attain the unattainable ideal of perfection.  People in pursuit of this goal either end up becoming Pharisees or failures. The good news is that our failures can lead us to grace and the love of Christ. The authors do a great job of pointing us in this life-giving direction."

-Scott McKinney, Pastor at CenterPoint Church

"The Paradox of Perfection is an eye opening and perspective changing book that guides the reader past the rough surf of rigid flawlessness to the calm and rolling waves of a new understanding of perfection.   Readers are taught the simple yet powerful language of Christian perfection which encourages greater love for God and increased charity toward self and others.  This book is a must read for those who have a desire for perfection but struggle with how to achieve it in this life."

-Todd Huisken, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Author of Bible Origami


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